I did not grow up “Type A” and organized. I spent over 35 years of my life cluttered, disorganized and procrastinating.
With that came a ton of shame, doubt and questioning….
What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I figure this out? Why are things so hard for me?
Most of my life this was only a burden and inconvenience to me. That all changed when I got married and started a family.
I remember the day that I was trying to get my three-year old to his swim lesson. I was running late as usual. I kindly asked him to get his shoes on as I swirled around the house frantically looking for towels, swimsuits and goggles (all which happened to be on different floors and shoved in closets bursting with an excess of belongings).
When I finally gathered all my supplies, I returned to find my child standing in the living room without any shoes on his feet. I was so mad! I stood over him and screamed, “What are you doing? We have to go! MOVE FASTER!”
He panicked, burst into tears and dropped to the floor melting into a pile of tears.
I had the opportunity to lean in with gentleness and compassion, instead I yelled even more, “Get up we have to go!”
Has this ever happened to you?
At that moment, I was overwhelmed with waves of inadequacy and a lack of worthiness.
My brain was screaming at me…
A good mom gets her kids to places on time
A good mom has all the stuff ready that they need
A good mom does all this while appearing effortless and attractive!
I eventually got his shoes on and we made it to the lesson. I sat in the waiting room overwhelmed with sadness and regret. I promised myself that I would never let that happen again.
I truly believe that my story is not unique and that I am not alone.
I know that you aren’t able to find what you need easily and that makes you feel frustrated, sad and embarrassed.
I know that you also want your family to feel safe and connected but are anxious about the mess in your home and to do list in your head and wind up yelling all the time.
I deeply understand the sadness and shame of not being able to order yourself or your belongings.
But I also know the success of identifying the beliefs and systems that best support you and the satisfaction of building and maintaining a lifestyle clear of all the clutter in your head and home. I have been successful doing that for over 6 years.
Give yourself permission to stop your cycle today.
Let me guide you on a journey where you will…
- Practice giving yourself permission to try new things.
- Run experiments to identify what works for you and releasing what no longer serves you
- Identify rhythms that support your mind and the functioning of your home
- Build systems that support rather than fuel shame
- Let go of unsupportive and limiting beliefs
Get on my calendar for a conversation to get the support you deserve. You are not alone!